Daycare issues ........
Has anyone's child been coming home with less then desirable language and phrases from school ? I have spoken with two other mom's, one whom is considering removing her child from the facility all together and another who has reduced the days her child attends daycare due to a similar problem. I am curious if this problem is a growing issue and how parents are dealing with this?
Concerned Mom
Not surprising, I don't have a little one but hear it other places. Maybe too much TV or unsupervised TV. You know at that age that pick up everything, especially when you don't think they're listening or watching.
Bessie 
What have you classified as desirable language and phrases . if your kids are going to make it on the streets of this world you cant plug their ears . the best thing to do is teach them what the words are and how they hurt some people and what is right fom wrong .
CagedAnimal you cant blame the daycare.......kids are all the same at any school at any age. You can only address it when you hear it in your own home and tell the child its inappropriate and why.
cmj Unfortunately, I think this is inevitable no matter what school/daycare you send your kids to. If you move your child out of one facility and into another, chances are high that it will still happen. I have a little one in daycare, too.
WE have had the same issue. We pulled her out of the school and placed her in a in home daycare. Hope this will help
Our child (3yrs) does not watch much television, and we surely would not be watching something that says "I will kill you" in it while she is awake.
wow, for some reason until i posted i only saw 1 post from bessie, Now they all just popped up, I was not ignoring anyone sorry.
CagedAnimal- I do not think that my 3 year old needs to know how to survive on the streets
CMJ- Myself and other parents have heard and addressed this language several times while at the school. It is ignored by the teachers and they are not reinforcing better language. At least not when we are dropping off the children in the morning.
LF- Have you had problems like this is your child's school? I have been tolerant to the normal child words "your not my friend any more" "shut up" etc.... I gladly give a time out and teach my child that it is not nice but for a 3 year old to come home from school and when i advised her she had to many snack and could not have another she pointed at me and said i will kill you. I nearly had heart failure when that came out of her mouth. Another child's mother had her daughter come home saying the exact same thing, when her sister did not want to hug her last week she replied "hug me or i'll kill you"
Mansfieldmomof1- Can you recommend the at home daycare you use? I am going to start checking our options.
We had issues like this when my girls were in daycare. Don't get me wrong, I loved the director and most of the teachers, but yes, there was inappropriate language and inappropriate behavior. I believe it exists everywhere, in every school, every daycare, every playground, on every bus. I could not change the behaviors of others, but I could use them as opportunities to teach appropriate behavior. At one point, my younger daughter would grunt every time you asked her something (she was three at the time). EVERY CHILD in her class was doing the same thing!! We (all of the parents) laugh about it now, but it was NOT funny at the time. It was not acceptable and I made sure there was a negative consequence every time. . . She also said the "kill you" thing - just once. Believe me when I say, she would NEVER say it again. . . My children are now in school and I hear very positive comments about their manners and behavior. Your children need to know what YOUR expectations are, no matter what other kids are doing. It will pass. Good luck!
colette I don't like that kind of language, either, but I don't know if comes 100% from the school/preschool. Even the most seemingly innocent sources have that sort of language in them. The Disney movie "Snow White" has the wicked queen instructing the huntsman to kill Snow White and bring her the heart......many movies of that same time period throw the word "stupid" around like it's nothing as we all try to teach our children that it's not a kind word. We don't let our daughter watch questionable or inappropriate television, but sometimes language, etc. like this pops up in the most unexpected places.
ImOnSaxton concernedmom-send me your email address and i will provide her name and phone number for you.
mansfieldmomof1 I totally agree with Colette....kids are hearing negetive language from many different sources, including the beloved cartoons such as Disney movies and even Shrek. I think that regardless of which school we choose, the negetive language will happen as kids at the pre-school age are fascinated by any words that grab attention. Its up to the school and parents to use it as a learning opportunity and enforce consequences. I'm confident my school does that........and if they didnt, I would keep talking to the Director. If I didnt see changes then, I would switch schools. If a school doesnt care enough to reinforce positive behaviour and have consequences for negetive behaviour..........then they are not the school for my family.
curly Concerned Mom
look your not going to be able to sheild your kids from every thing so take them out of day care and lock them in your house . and you needed to say it was a 3yr old but all i get from it is that moms and dads need to teach their kids what are the right and wrongs in life as they learn things on the out side world even smirfs are a danger
Concerned Mom - absolutely a 3 year old isn't going to get it when you tell them not to say a bad word, so forget that approach. They mimic what they hear. They can't decide what is appropriate. Not at 3. Seriously, I don't think Disney is a problem. Or Bugs Bunny either. (is that even on any more)
If your child is coming home from daycare using inappropriate language, it is either because the daycare providers are using bad language (most likely) or the parents of the other kids are trash mouth losers. (was that harsh? nah. shouldn't swear in front of little kids!) In either case, you need a new daycare.
And never use those words and phrases you don't like at home. I know as my kids got older the would swear a bit, but it was never in front of me or their father. Just their friends, and even then, it was very little. And watch your extended family. They might be the problem. Let them swear all they want, but not where the kids can hear.
maja All my daughter has learned so far is how to show me where her nose is...I can't wait to hear the interesting phrases that she will come up with.
I don't think you can blame it on the daycare. I believe it would happen at any daycare/school that they go to. Kids pick things up from everywhere. They are little sponges. They soak up all the information and use it at the most inappropriate time unfortunately. My kids also had this issue, I could have kept them home and not let them learn to socialize on their own or send them to school/daycare and deal with the situations as they come. The kids could be learning it from older siblings, tv shows, the public and bringing it to the school. When you hear it you just have to continue addressing it. I don't believe it can be blamed on the 'daycare' itself. They may be picking it up there but I am sure they are not hearing it from the workers. If it was coming from the workers then that is a different issue.
Someone once told me "small children, small problems, Big children, Big problems."
It's true.
Firefly I agree with most here, it will happen regardless of what school the child is in, but if they teachers are not correcting the behavior then it is time oto change.
I know from my own child, we tell her all the time that we dont talk that way and that it is not nice,but when I would pick her from daycare, the children would say bye to her and talk trash, and the teachers would be right there and not say a word. I would be the one to tell her or the other child that we dont talk like that. The other child responded to me saying that is ok, so when my daughter went to do it I just looked at her and said we dont talk like that, jsut because your friends do does not mean you will. And she stopeed.
But I do think it has a lot to do with the teachers at the school and if as a parent you are not happy then pull your child regardless of reason or what others will think.
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